upgrading clutch
 

i dont know too much about clutches except how to drive one and no im not replacing it from burning it out i just think its never been changed and getting a little soft but im just wondering i dont want to go back to oem but also im lazy so the question is with the various stages of clutch kits does the stiffness go up by stage and how much and what stage should i get and brand if im looking for and will i notice a difference power wise as you can see i have little knowledge on this subject someone teach me!(im sure spike will be the first to tell me)

oh and seeing as how i am changing the clutch already is it worth changing the flywheel and what would be a good replacement and also will that help my performace

Like you I'm a noob with clutches as well but as far as I know, stifness goes up by stages. Stage 1, 2 and 3.
If you drive your car daily, through traffic, get grocery stick with Stage 1 or OEM. Stage 2 or 3 will be way too stiff and not ideal in those conditions. The biting stage is very early as I recall.

Changing your flywheel to a lighweight will make a difference, I believe it helps your rpm jump up and down much faster for quicker shifting?
Anyway, this is as much as I know, correct me if I'm wrong.

You can use stage 1 or stage 2 for street. if you are good with driving manual, then stage 2 will not be a problem. it gets a little annoying in traffic but its not too bad. my brother had stage2 in his civic and i had stage 1 exedy in mine. both cars were street driven.
if you are planning on doing some upgrades that will boost your power up higher [not talking about intake/exhaust] then should really think about getting stage 2.
Different clutch manufacturers will have different ratings on their clutches. do some research. as far as i remember [may be off] my exedy stage 1 was good for up to 250ft-lbs of torque. Although after a day of tracking the car at cayuga the clutch felt soft.
IMO there is no sagnificant difference in replacing the flywheel. you can just get it remachined for $40'ish and it will be just fine.

in the end if i was to replace my clutch i would probably go with stage 2 because stage 1 has a very OEM like feel to it and after driving with stage 2 i fell in love with it haha. but to each their own.

EDIT: Whatever you do, do NOT get puck clutch, you will hate it on the street haha

I got Stage 1 for street use. Not too harsh, good jerk to the pedal.

My mech said the flywheel only saves weight, doesn't do much. Or you can change final drive if u wanna get some boost (but's gonna cost ya).

light weight flywheel makes the revs a lot more "easy" there is less enertia on the crank.
it also makes shift a lil easier. My buddy on his probe had a fidanza one and it was really nice, but different to get used to. but there is def a difference.

I had a 10.5lbs flywheel, yeah it revved up/down quicker while in loose revs but while driving, there was no major difference. Car wouldn't coast for as long as it used to with stock one. Its just something to brag about but performance wise its not a big deal.
As long as you get your stock one remachined so it has nice clean surface for the new clutch, you will be just fine. But that's just me...

yea when i said rev easier i ment when the clutch was disengaged.

Some times you can get a kit thats got both a clutch and flywheel..... and i think with some clutches you have to get another flywheel to match???

A daily drove a stage 4 with no problems, it just depends on what you are comfortable with.

Choosing a clutch is extremely simple...buy a clutch for the power you have/want and the driving you do.